Don’t be too positive!
Many self help trainers will teach you all sorts of ways to be more positive… affirmations, motivational techniques, how to avoid negative thinking, etc. While this is certainly something worth achieving, it’s a mistake to completely avoid looking at the negative portions of your life. In fact, sometimes you want to really get upset at yourself! This is what it takes for many of us to finally be willing to make a change in our life, we need some unhappiness to move us towards action. While positive reinforcement (e.g. looking at what we want) may sound better than negative reinforcement (looking at what we don’t like), it’s the negative that often carries stronger motivation.