‘Negativitis’ cripples the human spirit

Chuck Gallozzi

Chuck Gallozzi lived, studied, and worked in Japan for 15 years, immersing himself in the wisdom of the Far East and graduating with B.A. and M.A. degrees in Asian Studies. He is a Certified NLP Practitioner, speaker, seminar leader, and coach. Corporations, church groups, teachers, counsellors, and caregivers use his more than 400 articles as a resource to help others. Among his diverse accomplishments, he is also the Grand Prix Winner of a Ricoh International Photo Competition, the Canadian National Champion of a Toastmasters International Humorous Speech Contest, and the Founder and Head of the Positive Thinkers Group that has been meeting at St. Michael’s Hospital, Toronto since 1999. His articles are published in books, newsletters, magazines, and newspapers. He was interviewed on CBC’s “Steven and Chris Show,” appearing nationally on Canadian TV. Chuck can be contacted at chuck.gallozzi@rogers.com. View his photography at https://500px.com/chuckgallozzi

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28 Responses

  1. feli guevarra says:

    good one.

  2. carl m milito jr says:

    i have a friend who i tell over & over STOP with the NEGATIVE AND START thinking POSITIVE I ASK HIM “John ask your friend if you can borrow 5.00 and his answer will be Oh they do not have any money they are always broke” i say STOP THINKING NEGATIVE AND START THINKING POSITIVE THIS SENARIO GOES ON ALL THE TIME-I WILL PRINT THESE PAGES OUT FOR MY FRIEND AND I HOPE HE UNDERSTAND WHAT NEGATIVE THINKING IS DOING TO HIM
    THANK YOU…

  3. autumn says:

    this information was very helpful and i like the whole disease thing that is very confinsing!!! 🙂

  4. joseph schembri says:

    if you have a positive attitude you are very lucky person as that attitude brings bliss joy wealth and much more

  5. Sandra Davids says:

    Well written and so true I know a whole lot of negative people and they are not successful.

  6. NM says:

    I have the same feeling and do the same things, this whole thing is my life. Now I understand..thank you 🙂

  7. Nick says:

    That is so well said.

    Thanks!

    I would like it if this one important person in my life would take the time to read it.

  8. Patrique says:

    Nonsense. Negative people are simply more susceptible to the true state of affairs of the world. They lack the ability to fool themselves into that everything is alright. If people would take take heed of the warning signs of those “negative” people, the world would be a better place indeed.

  9. MartinElias says:

    Absolutely true.
    For example my sister used to also incline to negative thinking she like watch unpleasant real videos, scenarios of accidents or things like that and feelings of that just stays in her amygdala: memory of feelings and she feels more depressed.

  10. vamsi says:

    its well said about the environment is filled with negative thinkings and thougts….

  11. john says:

    I think balance is key.

  12. john says:

    i especially liked #7. as someone who works with people a lot, it’s what most people really don’t get.

  13. Abhijit says:

    Nothing is good or bad…it’s in our mind which makes it good or bad…

  14. mahsa says:

    I have the same feeling as NM.thank you for all things.

  15. jigs says:

    thnx… now i know who i am now.

  16. alwan says:

    accepting who you are doesnt mean stop progressing.love yourself before trying to love others.

  17. Homar Maximiliano says:

    Beautifully said. Thank you

  18. wh says:

    i have to agree with patrique, he is right on the money

  19. Happyhate says:

    The irony of course being you are negative towards negativity. What a simple world this is. Thanks.

  20. Max Ray says:

    I’ve known some negative thinking. My dad ‘seemed’ to think negative, but he wasn’t having opinions about me: 1. I don’t ask for an opinion, and I don’t leave room to comment about me, I hate your thoughts about me, so I’m a damn ignorant person. 2. His “negative” thinking, which he said he can’t remember, but mum is no bull artist, what she said is dad said I think he’s a saint. 3. I can take her word for this. 4. as long as this is my world and only concerns me, I’m satisfied with my inventions and not with human beings. 5. I don’t hate humans, I just hate the people who make comments about me. 6. I’m talking to the maker of the website and not anyone else.

    I don’t have problems, it’s the world’s problem. Every year since 2011 nothing thinks what I try to make it think, but I did a very extroardinary job making some people think I’m so good, so talented, without letting disability get in the way, I ignored the disability, and focussed on a silent label: personal power, but my power doesn’t involve businesses or success gurus writing for years, I have my own kind of power, and that power is most people think I’m so great. It’s not a casual “how’s it going? You’re cool!”, it’s more like, in a soft nice voice “You’re a good man and you’re very gifted”. The point is negativity and what people think of you is just an illusion; Schopenhauer has ruined my mind so I couldn’t see that none of the evil is true (evil is not the truth, and brutal honesty is a delusion of unpleasant reality, none of that stuff exists). Unpleasant reality doesn’t exist, the real reality is me, and myself and no one exists, they’re just insane images in my mind. That means you are crazy, my sanity is clean if I can stop percieving your presence, not because I don’t like you, but because a human is a hologram of a crazy insane person.

  21. eileen says:

    love this article as i have to deal with a miserable and very negative person each day and just her facial expression can ruin my day,
    I wish there was something i could do to avoid her but she is my sister

  22. Kyle says:

    No wonder I am always attracting either negative people or people in negative moods.

    I have autisum disorder which effects my learning skills and most of the time I just sit feeling sorry for myself and only try to do things to please others rather then myself.

    I’ve noticed if you go in life either doing nothing about your situation or trying to please others the results often back fire.

    The universe is like a nagging mother that will not stop till whatever your blockage is is chewed up.

  23. El says:

    Everything negative we say about ourselves to ourselves (self-talk) and to others is a suggestion. We are unwittingly practicing self-hypnosis, programing ourselves for failure, and creating self-fulfilling prophecies.

    Oh my God this is right on point. As a matter of fact everything you have said is true and some things have hit home for me, things I am dealing with or have dealt with in the past.

    Excellent information.

  24. J. Blake Nelson says:

    I once heard that in marriage it’s best to keep your eyes open fully beforehand and half shut afterwards. And it pays to listen, but it doesn’t hurt to be a little deaf, either. You can apply this to the world at large, too. You cannot make a truly honest appraisal of the world and keep a shine about it. But you can look with the fresh eyes of a child and see something that wasn’t there before.

  25. Sandyjo Gerald says:

    I am typing you today because i have this same problem here with the man i live with and all he does is complain all the time from morning till night,he hates the world he lives in and he hates people and he keeps wishing bad things to happen to people and he hates himself and nothing ,i mean nothing is ever right for him!
    He has been this way for over his life time and its only become worse and i just can’t deal with it any more and he has a awful attitude and i just don’t know what to do about it and this point i don’t think i can do anything!
    And if i say anything about the bad things he is saying he gets mad at me and storms off in the other room and slams the door and runs his mouth in there and then falls in a depressed state and stays that way all day and he is never ever in a good mood as he is always mad all the time and he thinks the whole world is against him or people are talking about him or he thinks that people are plaining to do something to him or going to distroy something of his.
    He never smiles no time ever and he is never happy!
    Thanks for reading what i had to say!
    Sandyjo Gerald

  26. Dennis says:

    Feels like a gigantic cop out. The positive people pointing at people who are frustrated and fed up with their environments are unable to change things because the way things work is by numbers. Otherwise the only real major contributor to change is bias and convincing others to join you. The ‘negative’ people aren’t always negative, in fact they are hyper positive. How? It’s because they care too much, have higher expectations than you do, and would hope the rest of the world would smarten up and actually care about one another enough to avoid having to fold, let someone walk all over them, or keep their mouths shut because they don’t agree with the status quo.

    Usually the reason for what you consider negativity is in fact a disdain for ineptitude, a disgust for obnoxiousness and a hate for arrogance/stupidity. But that’s considered negative because its not sun shiny and happy times for all. Did you even consider that your version of happy, of the world, is a living hell for others? And since you join in in the least resistant majority of sheep out there, that perhaps your existence and support of that form of life is what causes negative feedback from others…when really they are just expressing the anguish they suffer from the majority arrogance/stupidity/opinion/ignorance? But that would mean you’d have to care or look at yourself as the problem. And why would you ever do that when you have the wonderful name calling defence mechanism called negativity.

    Get off your high horse positive kick and realize that positive and negative are relative to point of view. And perhaps one day you’ll realize your farts don’t smell like roses to everyone else. And in fact what you do is ostracize the rest of these people with your dismissive ideology on ignoring progressive reflection, frustrating the situation thus causing more misery on those you condemn. You are in fact the most negative influence through bigoted prejudice.

  27. Merlin says:

    I think am a positive thinker I like your comments on negative people.
    I have a brother and sister-in-law that would complain if hung with a new rope, they have did this all my life no matter what I do are say are do is not good enough to please them, If I say any thing they want to fight,Im 67 years old my brother 68 we have battled all our life, and its got worse, this last time we had a family reunions my brother and sister in law was there first.
    I was bringing some food up and when I got there I let my dog out and was unloading my truck, the next thing that happened was my dog did his thing on sister in law bag that was on the ground she got up and tried to kick my dog crust jump in there car and sped out like Mario andedy ?
    You talk about childish acks,I had just bought another truck when I got home ,some one had keyed it if you know what that means, took a car key and took it too my paint on the truck that I had just got, this has never in my life, and when confronted them, all they wonted, to do is fight. you made me under stand negative people thank you

  28. Merlin says:

    Knowing the truth about negative people makes it easer to forgive them, and to under stand why?

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