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Don’t Let Others Intimidate You

Were you ever bullied, humiliated, harassed, or treated with contempt? Were you ever called names, such as fatso, baldy, geek, retard, or ugly? When you tried to fit in at a new school, job, or neighborhood, did someone or some group make racial slurs, belittle your religion, make fun of your appearance, ridicule your opinions, mock your speech, or deride …

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How do we crawl out of the mire of self-pity

“What poison is to food, self-pity is to life.” —Oliver C. Wilson Do you rise and shine or rise and whine? Are you, or do you know, someone who starts the day by rising and whining instead of rising and shining? You know the type; they love to swish around in self-pity. They believe the world is unfair and the only …

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Welcome to Envy

“Envy is the art of counting the other fellow’s blessings instead of your own.” (—Harold Coffin) To be envious is to regret one’s failure to achieve good fortune or to regret the successes of others. It is often accompanied by a false sense of entitlement. Instead of working for what they want, envious people may believe they deserve it merely because …

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Anger Management Tips

Eight simple anger management tips The Happy Guy shares offers anger management skills to help reduce the stress anger causes ” The other night I ate at a real family restaurant. Every table had an argument going.” One of the biggest obstacles to personal and career success is anger. When we fail to control our anger, we suffer several blows: …

You can have or be anything you want, but . . .

Most “pop psychology” and self-help books teach that you can be, do, or have anything you want. They deliver this message for a good reason. It’s true! However, while we can be or have anything we want, the same is not true for EVERYTHING we want. There are two reasons for this. First, our resources are limited. After all, we …

Any Fool can Criticize, and Most Fools Do

The Harm We Do Imagine stabbing a friend in a fit of anger. As the knife blade sinks into his chest, your friend gasps in astonishment. Bewildered, his face contorts in excruciating pain. Losing blood and succumbing to shock, he collapses. Fortunately, someone called an ambulance, which soon arrives and rushes your friend to the hospital. Although he recovers, his …

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Anger is the weak person’s imitation of strength

A good reason not to get angry is anger broadcasts our own weakness. When we vent our anger, we are effectively shouting, “I’m scared! I’m frustrated! I’m hurt!.” That’s another way of saying, “I’m weak!” After all, we are only as big as the things that make us angry. The following are examples of frustration: becoming angry when someone takes …

It’s okay to pick your friends, but don’t pick them to pieces

What do you think of people who descend on their friends like vultures, criticizing, maligning, ridiculing, scorning, blaming, insulting, and belittling them? Actual vultures feed on carrion, but these human vultures pick their friends apart while they are still alive. Our family members are supposed to be our closest friends, yet even they may engage in the same malicious tactics. …

Ideas for dealing with an angry person

Everyone is periodically faced with an angry person, and can be challenging to deal with. I’d like to share a few ideas in how to react to another’s anger, whether it’s a spouse, friend, or even a stranger. Some of these will also apply if you are angry yourself, which of course is something to avoid in the first place. …