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Don’t Let Others Intimidate You

“If you let a bully intimidate you, he’s going to do it again. You’ve got to stand up to these strong-arm tactics.” (–Charles Djou) Were you ever bullied, humiliated, harassed, or treated with contempt? Were you ever called names, such as fatso, baldy, geek, retard, or ugly? When you tried to fit in at a new school, job, or neighborhood, …

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The Dangers of Negative Thinking

The Dangers of Negative Thinking, How to Avoid It, and How to Switch from Negative to Positive Thinking Negative Thinking Doesn’t it seem strange that some people complain they don’t have enough time to be happy, yet find enough time to be sad? Not really. You see, their deplorable plight has nothing to do with having enough or not enough time. …

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How to cope with regret

Feeling regret is one of the most common experiences that we all share. We become familiar with it from a very young age, and it’s usually tied to other events such as missing out on something that matters to us. Regret is usually talked about as a negative term but it can lead to a lot of positives. By feeling …

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Welcome to Envy

“Envy is the art of counting the other fellow’s blessings instead of your own.” (—Harold Coffin) To be envious is to regret one’s failure to achieve good fortune or to regret the successes of others. It is often accompanied by a false sense of entitlement. Instead of working for what they want, envious people may believe they deserve it merely because …

Attention All Motivational Speakers and Self Help Gurus

Preach always. Use words when necessary. – St. Francis of Assisi. * * * * * * * * * Is suicide ever justified? Most people would agree that terminally ill people should have the right to end their lives particularly if the quality of their lives is absent. But what about the rest of us? How about the person …

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Anger Management Tips

Eight simple anger management tips The Happy Guy shares offers anger management skills to help reduce the stress anger causes ” The other night I ate at a real family restaurant. Every table had an argument going.” One of the biggest obstacles to personal and career success is anger. When we fail to control our anger, we suffer several blows: …

You can have or be anything you want, but . . .

Most “pop psychology” and self-help books teach that you can be, do, or have anything you want. They deliver this message for a good reason. It’s true! However, while we can be or have anything we want, the same is not true for EVERYTHING we want. There are two reasons for this. First, our resources are limited. After all, we …

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Anger is the weak person’s imitation of strength

A good reason not to get angry is anger broadcasts our own weakness. When we vent our anger, we are effectively shouting, “I’m scared! I’m frustrated! I’m hurt!.” That’s another way of saying, “I’m weak!” After all, we are only as big as the things that make us angry. The following are examples of frustration: becoming angry when someone takes …

It’s okay to pick your friends, but don’t pick them to pieces

What do you think of people who descend on their friends like vultures, criticizing, maligning, ridiculing, scorning, blaming, insulting, and belittling them? Actual vultures feed on carrion, but these human vultures pick their friends apart while they are still alive. Our family members are supposed to be our closest friends, yet even they may engage in the same malicious tactics. …

Ideas for dealing with an angry person

Everyone is periodically faced with an angry person, and can be challenging to deal with. I’d like to share a few ideas in how to react to another’s anger, whether it’s a spouse, friend, or even a stranger. Some of these will also apply if you are angry yourself, which of course is something to avoid in the first place. …