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How do we crawl out of the mire of self-pity

“What poison is to food, self-pity is to life.” —Oliver C. Wilson Do you rise and shine or rise and whine? Are you, or do you know, someone who starts the day by rising and whining instead of rising and shining? You know the type; they love to swish around in self-pity. They believe the world is unfair and the only …

You Need Nobody to Make You Somebody

Recognition, attention, and  acceptance are gifts most people hunger for. Songstress and diva Madonna confesses: “I became an overachiever to get approval from the world.” Unlike Madonna, however, most people don’t admit they desperately yearn for recognition and respect. If I were to claim people are starving for approval, would I be overstating the case? American psychologist William James didn’t …

Self-Esteem: Change the Way You See Yourself

“Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second- rate version of somebody else.” (Judy Garland) Self-esteem is one of the most essential components of a human being’s personality. It is basically the image you have of yourself in your own opinion. You have a good opinion of yourself, you have high self- esteem, you have a bad …

Self Esteem – Change the way you see yourself

“Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second- rate version of somebody else.” Judy Garland Self esteem is one of the most essential components of a human being’s personality. It is basically the image you have of yourself in your own opinion. You have a good opinion of yourself, you have high self- esteem, you have a …

Self Esteem – The Problem Behind All Problems

Self esteem is THE major challenge of our era. It lies at the heart of many of the diverse issues and challenges we face in life. In fact, it is precisely because low self esteem does not seem to be the problem, that it is so very insidious. Many people who suffer from low self esteem attribute their life challenges …

Quest For High Self-Esteem

by Mel Wayne STEP ONE … IDENTIFY LOW SELF-ESTEEM The identification of low self-esteem is the first and most revealing step in our quest for esteem. It is easy to identify l.s.e. characteristics by naming low self-esteem personality traits. Before we reveal low self-esteem behaviors, let’s prepare ourselves for an emotional revelation. There’s an excellent chance we’ll find a few …

Building Self Confidence

by: Brigette Meier Several similar terms describe the central attribute of a character that decides on the strength of personality and the degree of inner freedom:     * “self assurance” describes mostly the behaviour. Counterparts are insecure behaviour or shyness.    * “self confidence” is the mental and emotional state that causes the outer appearance.    * “charisma” is the effect that …

Would the boy you were be proud of the man you are?

Do you feel good about yourself? As Laurence J. Peter (1919 ~ 1990) put it, “Would the boy (or girl) you were be proud of the man (or woman) you are?” That should be our goal, to be proud of ourselves. Of course, I’m not talking about negative pride. I’m not encouraging you to become arrogant, haughty, or snobbish, for …

Just because we WANT approval doesn’t mean it’s necessary for our happiness

Respect is love in plain clothes (Frankie Byrne) Besides being ‘love in plain clothes,’ respect is a gift most people hunger for. Songstress and diva Madonna confesses: “I became an overachiever to get approval from the world.” Unlike Madonna, however, most people don’t admit they desperately yearn for approval, appreciation, recognition, and respect. If I were to claim people are …

The best place to find a helping hand is at the end of your own arm

Many people lack self-reliance. By self-reliance I merely mean the ability to rely on ourselves to do whatever we feel should be done. As children we depended on others. We turned to our parents, teachers, and other adults for support. Later, when we tried to assert ourselves by making our own decisions, we were often criticized and punished for making …