Just because we WANT approval doesn’t mean it’s necessary for our happiness

Respect is love in plain clothes (Frankie Byrne) Besides being ‘love in plain clothes,’ respect is a gift most people hunger for. Songstress and diva Madonna confesses: “I became an overachiever to get approval from the world.” Unlike Madonna, however, most people don’t admit they desperately yearn for approval, appreciation, recognition, and respect. If I were to claim people are …

The best place to find a helping hand is at the end of your own arm

Many people lack self-reliance. By self-reliance I merely mean the ability to rely on ourselves to do whatever we feel should be done. As children we depended on others. We turned to our parents, teachers, and other adults for support. Later, when we tried to assert ourselves by making our own decisions, we were often criticized and punished for making …

Rebuilding our Self-Esteem

Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand-brake on (Maxwell Maltz) Bear with me for a moment, for I have an itch to write about fleas. Suppose you wanted to start your own flea circus, how would you go about training them? There are several techniques, but I’ll discuss one here: Get about 100 fleas and place them …

Me, Myself, and I

As a kid, when I was asked who I went out to play with, I would reply, “Me, Myself, and I.” I thought it was a cute answer. Little did I realize then how profoundly true my statement was. You see, we are not one person, but three people. The first is the person we were born as. That is, …

How Great Thou Art!

How great thou art! Can you guess who I’m writing about? The title of this article is the name of a hymn, so you may think I’m referring to God. But I’m not. Its His creature I’m talking about, YOU. If God is great and He made you in his image, aren’t you also great? Yes, how great you are, …

Self-Esteem – Why I know I am perfect

How do I know I’m perfect? Everyone tells me I am! Well, maybe they don’t directly say so, but they certainly suggest it. What they really say is, “Chuck, you’re nobody!” And as you know, nobody is perfect, so if I’m nobody, I’m perfect! Despite my less than perfect humor, I, like you, was born perfect. We all were. Anyone …

Building Self-Esteem

A Question of Self-Esteem A local reader asked over coffee a few questions about self-esteem. Since the information is worth sharing, I present it here in Question and Answer form. Q: “What is self-esteem? Is it another word for self-confidence? A: No, they are different. SELF-ESTEEM deals with the image we have of ourselves. It is about how we see …

Confidence – Freeing ourselves from the mire of inertia

Life leaps like a geyser for those who drill through the rock of inertia. –Alexis Carrel (1873 ~ 1944) Today’s article is in answer to an e-mail from Neale Higgins (not his real name). “I am a grateful member of Alcoholics Anonymous for nearly two years now. But I always saw myself as afraid of living life. I still do. …