We are all sentenced to solitary confinement

Chuck Gallozzi

Chuck Gallozzi lived, studied, and worked in Japan for 15 years, immersing himself in the wisdom of the Far East and graduating with B.A. and M.A. degrees in Asian Studies. He is a Certified NLP Practitioner, speaker, seminar leader, and coach. Corporations, church groups, teachers, counsellors, and caregivers use his more than 400 articles as a resource to help others. Among his diverse accomplishments, he is also the Grand Prix Winner of a Ricoh International Photo Competition, the Canadian National Champion of a Toastmasters International Humorous Speech Contest, and the Founder and Head of the Positive Thinkers Group that has been meeting at St. Michael’s Hospital, Toronto since 1999. His articles are published in books, newsletters, magazines, and newspapers. He was interviewed on CBC’s “Steven and Chris Show,” appearing nationally on Canadian TV. Chuck can be contacted at chuck.gallozzi@rogers.com. View his photography at https://500px.com/chuckgallozzi

10 Responses

  1. Carol Keenan says:

    I recently retired and found this article practical. Before I retired I created a plan to meet my emotional, social, spiritual, and physical needs. Then I began to blog the transition. Check it out at silverstep63.blogspot.com

  2. sonia john says:

    exactly wat i need at this point in my life,,,,,thanks

  3. PINKIE says:

    thank you very much. now i know that i have my self to blame for this situation

  4. Lori Camp says:

    This article is very informative. substance abuse is a very efficient and quick way to dive into a life of loneliness. Thanks for spreading awareness!

  5. d says:

    [quote name=”PINKIE”]thank you very much. now i know that i have my self to blame for this situation[/quote]
    why think so, i.e. in terms of blaim? would it be different if you could blaim someone else but still be lonely?

  6. Anne says:

    I didn’t find the advise in this article very informative–it was all common sense material. What is missing are the ideas of compassion and how sometimes we are meant to simply accept our times of loneliness and live through with some courage knowing that the only thing we can count on in life is change and this too shall pass with time. It’s those who chase solutions, or try to find strength in being intoxicated that suffer. Perhaps the best antidote is too move your body in some way when the pain of loneliness hits…go for long walks in nature, or take yoga classes..a good yoga instructor is better for you than any other professional help you could possibly need to alter the affects of loneliness. It’s not enough to simply say love yourself..the question is why should one turn their attention to themselves and how do they do that so they can begin to understand the depths of their emotional life.

  7. Meera says:

    thankyou guys this has helped me a lot to get over my sorrow of being alone

  8. bealison says:

    How can you even presume to equate the loneliness that results from the death of a child with any other form? Glib and completely insensitive. It’s not even close to comparable with retirement (which may bring the joy of grandchildren), a spouse (which, although painful, may leave you with children), or shyness (god help us). It is the death of the future. Thanks for diminishing my experience with facile comparisons. Somehow it is “wallowing in self-pity”? Shame on you.

  9. Guest says:

    I agree with Bealison about the loneliness of losing a child. By saying that someone is wallowing in self pity is totally unhelpful. I know because I have lost a child. At that time there was a great deal of time when I chose to be alone as nobody would understand how I felt and had panic attacks when I was in the supermarket.

    Ten years on it is a different loneliness caused by a relationship that went wrong. My ex just walked out with no explanation then I find out through Facebook he back with his ex and getting married less than a year after he left me. All my friends are in relationships and my son wants to spend all his time with his friends.

    I have been humiliated and this failed relationship has cost me emotionally and financially. What to do?

  10. lonesome #1 says:

    I am so lonely that I start to cry. My lifelong companion passed away about 3 years ago, and I have since realized that the relationship I had is gone for good, that I will never be in a relationship like I had for such a lone time. Life has changed. My extended family has changed since the passing of this individual, as they were very close to this person also. They have their own families and I am excluded as a 5th wheel. They have been able to move on with life…without me being a part of it. It is a double whammy, as not only lost my companion, but my extended family as well. It is hard for me to find anything to take the place of this companion (and my extended family) I don’t know where to go, I don’t know where to start looking, or for that matter, I don’t know exactly what I am searching for. I call associates on the phone, but I know that they get “tired” of me calling, interrupting their life. Anyone with suggestions, I would welcome them.
    Thank you.

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