Is it Better to Change One String at a Time?

Discussion in 'General Self Improvement' started by Kevin Mahoney, Nov 9, 2017. Replies: 4 | Views: 240


Is it easier to make many changes at once or one at a time?

  1. All at once, momentum is key.

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  2. One at a time, slow and steady wins the race.

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  1. Kevin Mahoney

    Kevin Mahoney Coaching Member

    Feb 24, 2017
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    I came across a discussion post this week that asked if it is better to change one string on a violin at a time or all of them at once. As one who has absolutely zero musical instrument experience, I had no opinion on the matter. The reason for the discussion appeared to be concern about the damage that could be done to the neck of a violin when removing the strings, all at once. The consensus seemed to be that changing all the strings at once was fine and that it was just an “old husband’s tale” (first time I heard that phrase) that said the neck of the violin would be damaged by such a change.

    As I read the various responses, I could not help but see the connection to personal growth. Is it better to make one change at a time or many changes all at once? Does changing all of our “strings” at once damage us or is that just an outdated myth? One of the discussion post participants mentioned that a violin is fine when removing all the strings at once because, in reality, a violin would naturally prefer to not have any pressure from strings. It sounds like there are more similarities between people and violins than I thought.

    So what do you think? Is it better for us to change one string at a time or change all of them at once?
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  2. Umach

    Umach Member

    Dec 2, 2017
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    Hi Kevin, very good observation and analogy.

    I personally believe that when we realize things are wrong and should be changed, they should be changed at once. Just cut them from your life AND replace with positive ones.

    To say slowly and steadily, one at a time, change the things, looks good. Baby steps. But then how long will you compromise with life.

    No more compromises. Decide and Do.

    By not changing them , you are letting those undesirable habits or anything to stay more. You are struggling every day, feeding both negative and positive things.
    Kick out the negativity and introduce the change you want.

    yeah, agreed. Sometime thing are so severe that "all -at a time" may not be possible. But believe me, such scenario are very rare. In our daily life, mostly we need to "change all of them at once"

    One thing as you said above, they simply didn't removed the old wire and kept violin without strings. They put new ones. Similarly, we must introduce some thing more positive and yet more pleasurable to get rid of old bad things.

  3. Selfhelplover

    Selfhelplover New Member

    Dec 9, 2017
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    I've been delving into this lately, a good book on the matter to me "The One Thing" by Gary W. Keller and Jay Papasan. The idea is that you focus on one thing, and get really really good at it before moving onto another topic. I was struggling with this for a really long time, and I can say its been working for me.

    This kid talks about him overcoming his fear of heights in this video I think its really cook because he talks about basically tackling this one thing before moving into other things.

    Let me know what you guys think!
  4. Lifeguider

    Lifeguider Member

    Apr 26, 2017
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    I would say focusing on one thing first and getting really good at it is something that works best. However I would add that sometimes our environment does allow us to to do it. Take the task and commit to time blocks for each task and then move on to the next task. Getting multiple things accomplished one step at a time!
  5. ang.necole11

    ang.necole11 Advisor Member

    May 20, 2017
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    Interesting analogy. I'd say one at time! Even if we do a little at a time. We as humans are not great at multitasking

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