The Three Thieves and Four Pillars of Happiness

The First Thief of Happiness: Reacting Emotionally instead of Responding Rationally You wouldn’t fire a gun without aiming, would you? So, why would we act without thinking? When we live as robots acting on impulse instead of rationally, there is a heavy price to pay. Replacing thoughtful behaviour with thoughtless acts leads to mental and physical suffering: lost dreams, emotional …

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Adversity: Here to Break Us or Make Us?

Pain, suffering, stress, and other difficulties are the admission tickets to the game of life. But, at times, we cannot help suspecting that life would be much more pleasant without the hassles. Is that what you think? Before answering, ponder the following. In a world without hurdles, there are no champions; without suffering, there are no saints; without battles, there …

‘Negativitis’ cripples the human spirit

Does it seem strange that some people COMPLAIN they don’t have enough TIME to be happy, yet they find enough time to be sad? Not really. You see, their deplorable plight has nothing to do with having sufficient or insufficient time. It has everything to do with complaining. After all, complaining is the negation of happiness. It’s impossible to complain …

Life is full of surprises, and you’re one of them

Life is full of surprises, and you are one of them. I’ll begin by offering two reasons YOU are so surprising. The first deals with your relationship with the universe. Although the size of the universe can be measured, its vastness is unfathomable. Nevertheless, I’ll try to paint a picture of its size. Imagine gathering all the beaches on earth …

Advice for a reader that cannot laugh

I live to laugh and laugh to live (Milton Berle, 1908 ~ 2002) A reader writes, “I read your article about Laughter and while finding it most informative, I also felt as though it were rubbing salt in a wound. You see Chuck, unfortunately I cannot laugh, and have been looking for all sorts of medical help with this problem. Of …

It’s all UP to you

A few days ago I got an interesting e-mail. It was a Christian message made up of seven brief paragraphs. Each paragraph consisted of a heading, a one-sentence explanation, and a biblical quotation. The seven headings were: Wake Up!, Dress Up!, Shut Up!, Stand Up!, Look Up!, Reach Up!, Lift Up! I thought it was a great idea and decided …

Make the rest of your life the best of your life

Make the rest of your life the best of your life. Does that make sense to you? It should because if we fail to make it better, it simply means we make it worse. Some may be tempted to say. “Wait a minute! How can I MAKE my life better? I can’t wave a magic wand and make everything better. …

It rains so the dead have something to complain about

“How are things going?” I ask. “Oh, I can’t complain.” they reply. Yet, after telling me they “can’t complain,” they immediately start doing so. On and on with whining, grumbling, griping, and bellyaching. Some people complain so much that I’m sure they continue doing so after they die. That must be why God created rain, so the dead would have …

Do you know what makes me mad?

Before I tell you what makes me mad, let me ask you, what angers you? What frustrates you? Disappoints you? Annoys you? These are important considerations because whenever we experience these negative emotions, we are unhappy. Since we want to be happy, we need to understand the cause of and solution to our unhappiness. Here I am trying to write …

Searching for happiness is like riding a taxi in search of a taxi

You wouldn’t take a taxi to search for a taxi, would you? Why search for what you already have? The search for happiness is no different. It’s a search for something you already have. Granted, it may not be obvious, for your happiness may be hidden in the recesses of your being. Do you remember the story of the ugly …