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The Truth about Our Expectations

On Oct 6, 1727, 39-year-old Alexander Pope wrote in a letter to John Gay, “Blessed is he who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed.” Expecting nothing is one way of avoiding disappointment. But what a heavy price to pay, for when we expect nothing, we get nothing. Imagine a honeybee staying away from flowers to avoid the possible …

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It is more shameful to…

“It is more shameful to distrust our friends than to be deceived by them.” (─Confucius) A Reader, whom I’ll call “Tom” writes, “In my 45 years of living on this planet life experience and living has much more frequently than not taught me that people are not to be trusted and that sooner or later you will be hurt by whomever …

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Are You Ready to Change?

Some say life is a struggle. If it is, every problem we face leads us to one of two choices. Either we choose to be victorious or we choose to be a victim. Either we choose to be responsible for the life we create or we shirk our responsibility by blaming others for our failures and unhappiness. Those who choose …

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Self-Sabotage – One Dozen Self-Defeating Habits

If you were asked to give an example of something ridiculous, what would you say? What would you consider foolish, irrational, absurd, stupid or senseless? What could be more ridiculous than to neglect oneself, ignore what is in one’s best interest, and squander one’s vast potential? Does it make any sense to curb your own growth and enjoyment of life? …

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Easy DOESN’T Do it. You’ve Got to Make the Effort

I came across a quotation on the Internet that resonated with me: “Continuous Effort ─ Not Strength or Intelligence ─ Is the Key to Unlocking and Using Our Potential.” I quickly found it all over the Internet, usually attributed to Winston Churchill. However, after further investigation, learned he never said that. Some believe it first appeared in print in 1981 …

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Forgiveness Releases the Bonds of Hatred

Alexander Pope aptly pointed out that “To err is human, to forgive, divine.” That is, it is normal to make mistakes, including the type that hurts others. We probably have all made mistakes. And when we did so, we may have dismissed our mistakes with a simple, “Whoops, sorry about that, I’m only human, you know.” Yes, we’re only human; …

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When You Obey Your Conscience, You Start a New Life

Did you ever hear of someone travelling to a distant land in search of a guru who would reveal the path to happiness, peace of mind, and a meaningful life? If you had the time and means, would you want to take such a trip? Suppose a spiritual master moved into your neighborhood and welcomed seekers into his home for …

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What Is in Charge of Your Life: You or Your Emotions?

You wouldn’t fire a gun without aiming, would you? So, why would we act without thinking? When we live as robots doing whatever feels good instead of whatever is best for us, there is a heavy price to pay. Replacing thoughtful behaviour with thoughtless acts leads to material, mental, and physical suffering: lost dreams, emotional turmoil, and bodily pain and …

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Life Secret: Embrace Your Problems

Frank is a 23-year-old European. He has graduated the university and started his studies for teaching credentials. Yet, rather than feeling joyful because of his achievements and a fairly comfortable life, Frank is troubled. “Why can’t I be as confident as others? Why am I so sensitive? What can I do to become accepted and admired by others? Why do …