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I’m so old my back goes out more than I do

Do you suffer from gerontophobia, which is the fear of old people, old age, and growing old? Judging by the number of books dealing with life after 50, or even 40, it appears that many people have difficulty dealing with aging. Since I’m 81, I have the right to ask, “What’s all the fuss about?” Part of the problem, it …

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The Dangers of Negative Thinking

The Dangers of Negative Thinking, How to Avoid It, and How to Switch from Negative to Positive Thinking Negative Thinking Doesn’t it seem strange that some people complain they don’t have enough time to be happy, yet find enough time to be sad? Not really. You see, their deplorable plight has nothing to do with having enough or not enough time. …

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The Nine Gifts of Christmastide

Sometimes the people we have to work with give us a hard time instead of their full cooperation. Our tasks become more difficult when the people we’re counting on give us a headache instead of a hand. Wouldn’t it be nice, though, if everyone we dealt with not only gave us a smile, but gave us a gift? Of course, …

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PATIENCE Is the Companion of Wisdom (─Saint Augustine)

Intro What trait has the power to change an ordinary person into an extraordinary one? It’s perseverance, also known as persistence, steadfastness, patience, or tenacity. It’s the ability to hold on to your dream like a pit bull, refusing to let go, regardless of the obstacles. Perseverance is one of the secrets of success. After all, if you keep moving …

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F.ollow O.ne C.ourse U.ntil S.uccessful

Imagine the rays of the sun striking a newspaper lying on the sand of a tropical beach. Even if the newspaper were to remain there for many years, there wouldn’t be very much damage. True, the pages would yellow and fade, but for the most part, the newspaper would remain intact. Yet, if we were to use a magnifying glass …

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Why Does It Take So Long to Make Progress?

Part of the spirit of human nature is a desire to make progress, or positive change. We all want to improve some area of our life. Perhaps we want to improve our finances, relationships, health, or education. We may want to control our emotions, develop self-disciple, or grow more tolerant. But why is progress so slow? Part of the reason …

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The Truth about Our Expectations

On Oct 6, 1727, 39-year-old Alexander Pope wrote in a letter to John Gay, “Blessed is he who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed.” Expecting nothing is one way of avoiding disappointment. But what a heavy price to pay, for when we expect nothing, we get nothing. Imagine a honeybee staying away from flowers to avoid the possible …

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It is more shameful to…

“It is more shameful to distrust our friends than to be deceived by them.” (─Confucius) A Reader, whom I’ll call “Tom” writes, “In my 45 years of living on this planet life experience and living has much more frequently than not taught me that people are not to be trusted and that sooner or later you will be hurt by whomever …

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Are You Ready to Change?

Some say life is a struggle. If it is, every problem we face leads us to one of two choices. Either we choose to be victorious or we choose to be a victim. Either we choose to be responsible for the life we create or we shirk our responsibility by blaming others for our failures and unhappiness. Those who choose …

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Self-Sabotage – One Dozen Self-Defeating Habits

If you were asked to give an example of something ridiculous, what would you say? What would you consider foolish, irrational, absurd, stupid or senseless? What could be more ridiculous than to neglect oneself, ignore what is in one’s best interest, and squander one’s vast potential? Does it make any sense to curb your own growth and enjoyment of life? …