Have you ever noticed that some people become stressed during a transition while others go with the flow? It all boils down to one’s emotional resilience. While some of it is biological, there are seven traits that you can start nurturing today to live an easier life with lesser resistance.
Here is a look at seven traits emotionally resilient people exhibit when faced with difficult situations:
1. They wait for what is right instead of acting out on what they want right then.
Just like the Stanford Marshmallow experiment, it is all about impulse control – that is the ability to pause and consider whether you should act on a desire. For instance, when a loved one angers you, your immediate response would be lashing out. However, impulse control dictates that you stop and consider if doing so is the best course of action. Delaying personal gratification and controlling urges lets you choose actions that align with your best intentions.
2. They can tolerate discomfort.
Just like the tip above, people who’re emotionally resilient are good at tolerating discomfort. Remember the words you spoke out of anger? Or hunger? Do you think the response would have been different if you’d endured through your discomfort for just one hour? While the first tip was about choosing the best course of action, this one is about sitting out emotions without being quick to take any action.
3. They seek a different perspective.
If you have ever said “Hindsight is 20 over 20” then you understand that there is a possibility that it may hold true for your present situation according to this blog from Tradewind Social Care Recruitment. Often, when we are in the trenches, it is difficult to see the bigger picture. Sometimes, things will happen ‘for’ you and not TO you. Something that may seem painful right now might be the gift you could not give yourself.
4. They practice acceptance.
Acceptance isn’t the same as complacency. It is not about giving in or giving up but about letting stress take over. It is all about allowing yourself to experience your emotions and believing that you will bounce back.
5. They recognize the power of time.
Emotionally resilient people remember that time is a healer of all wounds. People with a tendency to feel depressed generally fear spiraling right back into it; however, feeling emotions isn’t the same as getting caught up in them. Consider the last time you felt depressed – you probably thought it was the end of your life, but you still recovered. Right? Remember, the same holds true now – this too shall pass.
6. They don’t fight to have answers to everything all the time.
When we try so hard to find answers to challenging questions or situations, we unknowingly put blinders on. We become so consumed with finding solutions to whatever is troubling us that we forget that we will only receive the answer when we’re ready. Emotionally resilient people remember that it is OK not to have everything figured out all the time.
7. They remember to take care of themselves.
Emotionally resilient individuals understand that self-care is not something to negotiate. It is a commitment to self and daily practice that strengthens inner resolve. From mediation to exercise to drinking a cup of herbal tea, resilient people have their own unique stress busters that do not involve hitting binging or hitting the bottle.
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