We live in a society where more people are dying of loneliness. They are hurting, crying out for meaning.
They are told to turn to religion/find God/develop a relationship with a Deity. But such a relationship has no meaning to them. It is saturated with rituals that make no sense. It is a culture totally foreign to them.
To ease their pains, the lonely turn to immoral sexual behavior, alcohol and drug use, other addictions known to mankind. Some go even farther, committing crimes and participating in other anti- social behavior. But they soon realize these only compound their pains.
Why can’t the lonely find peace of mind? Why can’t the lonely find meaning? Are they totally to blame for their woes? Their heartaches? Their plight?
Just maybe..if religious organizations would stop trying to mold each individual in the way of that organization but rather love and nurture that individual the way that their religion demands, these problems would decrease.
In the words of Thomas Merton: “The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.”
Just maybe..if we stopped seeing everyone as objects to be taken advantage of, for our own person gain, these problems wouldn’t be so difficult.
Just maybe.. if we stopped seeing everyone as threat and started seeing them as our brothers and sisters, realizing we are all interdependent on one another, responsible to each other, their pains wouldn’t be so harsh.
Just maybe.. if we treated our neighbors’ gain as our gain and our neighbors’ loss as our loss as it states in Taoism, their problems would be less severe. It’s been said when one part of society suffers, we all suffer.
Finally, just maybe… if we all practiced the Golden Rule – the cornerstone of humanity which states: “Treat others as you would like to be treated,” – the wounds of the lonely wouldn’t be so painful.
We all demand respect; few of us willing to give it.
Ken works as a security guard. He’s a struggling writer of sketch comedy and pieces on spiritual issues. He wants to set up a non- profit comedy troupe for the community, entertaining in hospitals, drop-in centres, etc. He has established a troupe for psychiatric and physically-challenged communities to participate in. He is also interested in the plight of psychiatric patients and other poverty-related issues. Ken can be reached at email@example.com. This article cannot be re-published without permission.