There is nothing stronger in the world than gentleness

The title for this article was taken from Han Suyin’s novel “A Many Splendored Thing.” Notwithstanding her words, and despite the wisdom handed down during the past 25 centuries, there are still people who fail to realize that gentleness is more powerful than force. Words are easily spoken and quickly forgotten, but images persist. That’s why the greatest teachers taught …

Generous people are happy because they are following nature

To generous souls every task is noble (Euripides) Life is exciting, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t stressful. We’re bound to run into difficulties and sure to get caught in storms. And when we do, we appreciate the extended arm of a friend, offering help. Whatever form it takes, their generosity is like the sun breaking through a bank of …

What happens TO you, happens FOR you

Three women work in the same department. They are 24-year-old Rose, her 27-year-old friend, Elaine, and a relative newcomer, Elizabeth. Rose writes, “I tried to become friends with Elizabeth, but over time found her to be rude, moody, untrustworthy, and a gossip, who talks behind the backs of others. So, I stopped hanging out with her. But Elaine continues to …

You’ve got to be free in order to be 

How can we be the person we want to be; how can we realize our potential; how can we express ourselves; how can we know happiness unless we are free? What can be more frustrating than to be hampered and hemmed in, unable to act freely? What can be more agonizing than to have one’s progress blocked, one’s aspirations squelched, …

Those who can bear all can dare all

I was recently asked, “What is the formula for success?” Well, there is not one way to scale a mountain; there are many ways. Similarly, there is not one path to success, but many. Choose one, stay on it, and you’ll eventually reach your destination. However, since I was asked, I’ll give my own formula. Only you can decide whether …

Many live lives too small for their spirits

Stand-up comic Anita Wise had this to say, “I’m a little upset. I just found out I have to have this little procedure done. Nothing complicated, but they tell me it is going to improve my vision about 70 percent. But I’m a little nervous. I hate getting my bangs cut.” I’m glad to hear Anita Wise is improving her …

Our dream is the song of our soul

All great journeys start with a dream (Ozzie Smith)  We all have dreams. Usually while we’re asleep. Such dreams could be more hurtful than helpful. For example, imagine dreaming you’re eating shredded wheat, only to wake up and find half the mattress gone! Well, I’m not talking about that type of dream. Rather, I’m thinking about one’s vision, aspiration, or …

How does one discover their passion in life?

Chase your passion, not your pension (Denis Waitley) A 22-year-old college graduate, bewildered by the unlimited possibilities that face him, asks for help in deciding what life path to follow. Although his problem is common and understandable among young men and women, it is also experienced by some in their 30’s, 40’s, 50’s, and beyond. I will share his questions …

We all have within us a center of stillness surrounded by silence

Dag Hammerskjöld (1905 ~ 1961) said, “We all have within us a center of stillness surrounded by silence.” Yet, for some, silence and stillness are elusive. Caught up in the hustle and bustle of daily life, they find it difficult to drown out the clamor swirling about them. Even if they can retreat to a quiet spot, there is still …

How sad that I’m not sad!

Amy is in her early 50’s, married and has four children. She has written to me because she hasn’t been able to experience sadness for the last 18 years. She finds it strange that whenever her friends discuss tragedies, whether distant (such as the tsunami that struck Southeast Asia) or close at home (such as the abduction or murder of …