Advice for a reader that cannot laugh

I live to laugh and laugh to live (Milton Berle, 1908 ~ 2002) A reader writes, “I read your article entitled ‘The Benefits of Laughter’ (http://www.personal-development.com/chuck/laughter.htm) and while finding it most informative, I also felt as though it were rubbing salt in a wound. You see Chuck, unfortunately I cannot laugh, and have been looking for all sorts of medical …

Don’t agonize, compromise

People: we can’t get along without them and we can’t get along with them. We can’t get along without them because we can’t do everything; we need their help, and they need ours. We can’t get along with them because their interests and goals clash with ours. So, how do we reconcile these differences? How do we change frustration, bickering, …

Self-discipline is the mother of happiness

Does the title of this article sound like a contradiction or oxymoron? After all, self-discipline makes one think of work or effort, while happiness brings up thoughts of pleasure and the absence of work. So, how can the two go together? Well, first we have to understand what happiness is. It is peace of mind. And what exactly does that …

Lord, grant me patience, and do it NOW!

Patience is the ability to wait for the fruition of our goals. Or, as the ancient philosopher Epictetus is reported to have said nearly 2,000 years ago, “Nothing great is created suddenly, any more than a bunch of grapes or a fig. If you tell me that you desire a fig. I answer you that there must be time. Let …

What we learn from children

A torn jacket is soon mended; but hard words bruise the heart of a child (Longfellow) “Children today are tyrants. They contradict their parents, gobble their food, and tyrannize their teachers.” Sound familiar? Who do you suppose said that? It was Socrates! He said that more than 2,400 years ago. So the world hasn’t changed much, has it? It seems …

The lazy rest without comfort and sleep without peace of mind

This article is in response to a reader’s e-mail. I have shortened her message and numbered her points, and will answer her questions or comment on her statements, point by point. She writes, “I just read your article on overcoming laziness (http://www.personal-development.com/chuck/laziness.htm). I’m a woman in my fifties and will be starting a new job tomorrow. I have never been …

There is no dispensation from the Law of Compensation

What do I mean by saying there is no dispensation from the Law of Compensation? I first need to explain the meaning of COMPENSATION. I’m not using it to mean ‘salary’ or ‘benefit package,’ but to mean ‘what constitutes, or is regarded as, an equivalent; what makes good the lack or variation of something else; what COMPENSATES for loss or …

Patience carries a lot of WAIT

One of the great tragedies of life is unfulfilled potential. The world could have had, and should have had, many more police and pilots, engineers and entertainers, composers and chefs, doctors and diplomats, mechanics and masseurs, linguists and librarians, geologists and graphic artists, translators and therapists, nurses and navigators, welders and writers, as well as men and women working in …

Have you lost your drive because you’re out of gas?

“Help! There’s a lot I’d like to do, but I’ve run out of gas. What can I do?” Lack of energy or exhaustion is a problem that is holding many people back. Energy is the fuel that powers our drive to get things done; constant bouts of exhaustion are the brakes that bring our progress to a halt. So, much …

Avoiding the consumption of assumption

One of the most common terms used by young people to describe others is “loser.” That’s not a description, it’s a label. Some examples of the countless other labels we freely use to ‘describe’ others include fundamentalist, delusional, perfectionist, idealist, realist, extremist, terrorist, Catholic, Jew, Muslim, pessimist, pacifist, narcissistic, optimist, racist, liberal, homophobe, jerk, stupid, pro-life, pro-choice, two-bit punk, and …