Helping the Dying to Live

One day we will all have to visit, help, or comfort a dying person. How should we treat someone with a terminal illness? Shouldn’t we treat them the same way we treat anyone else? Why should we treat them differently when there is no difference between us. After all, aren’t we all dying? Yes, we are all dying, but until …

It is not the criminal we should hate but the causes of crime

Growing numbers of Canadians are suggesting that capital punishment should be reinstated. It is not because they are vicious, but because they are fearful. Afraid that violent crime is on the rise, they hope to stamp it out by sending a message to criminals. Why do they think killing people that kill people will teach others that killing people is …

Without trust all you can be in life is alone

Imagine trying to survive without trust. How could you drive anywhere unless you trusted the other drivers to follow traffic rules? Would you go to work if you didn’t have faith in your employer to pay your salary? Or, if you are the employer, would you hire anyone without the faith that they would carry out their responsibilities? It is …

Building Self-Esteem

A local reader asked over coffee a few questions about self-esteem. Since the information is worth sharing, I present it here in Question and Answer form. Q: “What is self-esteem? Is it another word for self-confidence? A: No, they are different. SELF-ESTEEM deals with the image we have of ourselves. It is about how we see and FEEL about ourselves. …

Major characteristics of the resilient

That which does not kill us makes us stronger (Friedrich Nietzsche) Who doesn’t admire the resiliency of the people of New York City? Those who have survived the most ferocious terrorist attack ever, have showed how, in a few short months, they could bounce back and get on with life. True, the world changed after September 11th. But so did …

Brokenhearted? Take heart; you will not die

A reader is his early 30’s is distressed because his girlfriend, who is eleven years younger, ended their two-year relationship. Our reader writes, “I am going through a life crisis, it may not seem a big thing but I am finding it very hard to cope. She is on my mind all the time. Can you suggest any ways in …

Breaking Bad Habits – We are what we repeatedly do

Aristotle taught, “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” Good habits are our best friends. Because we perform them unconsciously, they free us to concentrate on other useful endeavors. On the other hand, the opposite is true for bad habits. They encumber us, enslave us, and ensnare us, preventing us from moving …

Becoming Better – We have within ourselves an innate need to grow

He who stops being better stops being good (Oliver Cromwell, 1599 ~ 1658) We have within ourselves an innate need to grow. We want to become more than we are today. Simply put, we want to become BETTER human beings. When we are confused about how to become better, we may find ourselves wanting to own more possessions or earn …

When we appreciate beauty we can create it

Beauty is eternity gazing at itself in a mirror (Kahlil Gibran) It’s the end of a long day and you step into a hot bath. Suddenly your mind and body tingle with pleasure. Doesn’t it feel great to be alive? Sure it does, but why wait until the end of the day to cleanse and refresh yourself? We live in …

Awakening to God-Fish are unaware of the ocean in which they live

There was once a wise and holy fish who preached to the others, saying, “We live in an Ocean of Love. Behold how it protects and sustains us!” At first the fish were thankful, but soon they took their good fortune for granted. For whether they remembered or not, they still were cared for. Although their eyes were always open, …