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Handling Hypocrisy

  How should we handle one of the most common human traits, hypocrisy? Hypocrites disturb us because they are deceitful, pretending to be what they are not, professing one set of beliefs while living by another. They are found everywhere: in politics, religion, journalism. They are especially annoying when they berate others for doing what they themselves are guilty of …

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Don’t Let Others Intimidate You

“If you let a bully intimidate you, he’s going to do it again. You’ve got to stand up to these strong-arm tactics.” (–Charles Djou) Were you ever bullied, humiliated, harassed, or treated with contempt? Were you ever called names, such as fatso, baldy, geek, retard, or ugly? When you tried to fit in at a new school, job, or neighborhood, …

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Is Life Frightening?

The above question is an important one because the view we take colors everything we experience. Our attitude or perspective either works for or against us. So, now and then we need to pause and examine which way our life is heading. After all, if we don’t change our direction, we will end up where we are heading. If we …

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It’s almost 2020! Is Your Life Vision 2020?

A new year is about to begin. 2020 is around the corner. The year may be 2020, but what about your life vision? Is it 2020? Can you clearly see where you are headed? Often, we get so caught up in the mundane activities of life that we don’t see which way we are moving. What’s the point of traveling …

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Forgiveness

“They who forgive most shall be most forgiven.” (-Josiah Bailey) “To err is human, to forgive, divine” The quote above is a profound statement made by Alexander Pope. It points out that it is normal to make mistakes, including the type that hurts others. We probably have all made mistakes. And when we did so, we may have dismissed our …

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Logical Fallacies Hamper Clear Thinking

How much of what is going on around us do we understand? Surprisingly little. If not completely blind, our vision is obscured by the cobwebs of our mind, which include false assumptions, beliefs, and expectations. How can we think straight and make intelligent decisions if our mind can easily lead us astray? The answer is awareness. We must be conscious …

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Stop Doing What Doesn’t Work

“Doctor, doctor, you’ve got to help me. Every time I bang my head against the wall, it hurts.” “Well, stop banging your head against the wall!” Why do some people make life unnecessarily complex? It doesn’t require a PhD to get the most enjoyment from life; all that’s needed is a little common sense. If it hurts when you bang …

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The Mysteries of Life and Death

Believe it or not, my life is based on a true story. Come to think of it, so is yours. And so was Quentin Crisp‘s. One of the lines he left with us before his death at age 90 was, “Life was a funny thing that happened to me on the way to the grave.” When we can joke about …

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A Primer on Guilt and Shame

Introduction Imagine seeing people trudging through life carrying a heavy backpack. When you ask them what is in it, they reply, “I don’t know.” “Well, then, why are you carrying it?” you ask. They give the same answer, “I don’t know.” You see, they have been carrying it so long, they don’t recall how it got on their back, what’s …

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The Real Secret to Success Is Enthusiasm

“The Real Secret to Success Is Enthusiasm.” (−Walter Chrysler, Founder of Chrysler Motors) Enthusiasm: A little thing that makes a BIG difference. The word ‘enthusiasm’ comes from Greek and means God within (entheos). It refers to a divine spark or fire that burns within the breast of those with a passion for a cause, job, or life in general. “Enthusiasm,” …