What to do when your kid’s shoes cost more than yours

What do you tell your children when they say they need expensive shoes so they can be “popular” at school? If their shoes cost more than yours, isn’t something wrong? Children are afraid they won’t be “loved” by their peers if they wear cheap clothes. And parents are afraid they won’t be “loved” by their children if they don’t give …

Self-Esteem – Why I know I am perfect

How do I know I’m perfect? Everyone tells me I am! Well, maybe they don’t directly say so, but they certainly suggest it. What they really say is, “Chuck, you’re nobody!” And as you know, nobody is perfect, so if I’m nobody, I’m perfect! Despite my less than perfect humor, I, like you, was born perfect. We all were. Anyone …

Don’t give until it hurts; give until it feels good

Introductory note from Chuck: This article contains statistical data of Ontario, Canada at the time of this article. Although the numbers may vary in the United States, the principles that are discussed apply to most countries . . . At this time of year, people are celebrating or preparing to celebrate Ramadan, Chanukah, Christmas, or Kwanzaa. It’s a time we …

Tips to changing our attitude or the way we view the world

If necessity is the mother of invention, discontent is the father of progress (David Rockerfeller) You say you’re not satisfied? Things could be better? Great! You’re well on the road to moving forward. For the seed of progress is the need for improvement. According to Eugene V. Debs, “If it had not been for the discontent of a few fellows …

If You Don’t Change your Mind, Your Mind Will Change You

Many people are not entirely happy with their lives, and they have felt that way for many years. Most realize that if they want things to change, they will first have to change themselves. But if that is so, why don’t they change? Well, some don’t want to. Others don’t try to change because of a false belief. And those …

What are the Challenges of Love?

Real love stories never have endings (Richard Bach) With Valentine’s Day almost here, today’s article on romantic relationships is timely. However, it is prompted by a reader’s two-part question: “Is it true that it is easier to forgive than to forget?” and “What are the challenges of love?” Let’s dive in at once, considering the questions in the order in …

You don’t have to be disagreeable when you disagree

When a friend makes a remark about the weather that you disagree with, it’s easy to dismiss such a trivial matter without getting upset. However, if the subject changes to politics, religion, or other sensitive subjects, a simple misunderstanding can become a disagreement, which then leads to a quarrel, which, in turn, could end in bitterness and a breakup. Friendships …

The True Cause of Unhappiness

Is something disturbing, bothering, irritating, or annoying you? If so, what is troubling you? Is it a boss that is too demanding, a coworker that is too careless, or your children that are too noisy? Does the lack of civility, the increase in crime, or the apathy of young people upset you? Perhaps it is poor health, little money, or …

Helping the Dying to Live

One day we will all have to visit, help, or comfort a dying person. How should we treat someone with a terminal illness? Shouldn’t we treat them the same way we treat anyone else? Why should we treat them differently when there is no difference between us. After all, aren’t we all dying? Yes, we are all dying, but until …

It is not the criminal we should hate but the causes of crime

Growing numbers of Canadians are suggesting that capital punishment should be reinstated. It is not because they are vicious, but because they are fearful. Afraid that violent crime is on the rise, they hope to stamp it out by sending a message to criminals. Why do they think killing people that kill people will teach others that killing people is …