Ambiguity, vagueness, and uncertainty are not to be dreaded, but relished

Life is about not knowing… Delicious ambiguity! (Gilda Radner) Some people are uncomfortable with ambiguity. They have a need for precision. In their eyes, the world is clearly defined. Things are good or bad, right or wrong, virtuous or sinful. The problem is, the only time that is true is while we dream. Of what value is life if we …

A life without difficulties is a classroom without lessons

Life is difficult, thank God. The problems we overcome allow us to experience the richness of life and its accompanying joy. Adversity adds spice to life and makes a wonderful teacher. Don’t the hardships we undergo create the ability to bear them? Is it possible to live through a disaster without growing stronger? I’ll let you answer these questions for …

People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges

A reader writes, “My son, a university student, confided to me that he has problems with loneliness. Can you comment on loneliness, coping with being alone, and finding one’s path and values in life?” Our reader was keenly perceptive to ask about both “loneliness” and “finding one’s path” in the same question. It takes great insight to realize there is …

If you don’t make things happen, things will happen to you

A reader asks, “I was wondering if you had any concrete ways to begin the process of overcoming laziness and recapturing motivation. I realize that I have been dealing with laziness. There is an underlying anxiety that keeps me from getting going. With time it has transformed into a hazy, non-living lifestyle where I manage to only do the bare …

If you’re not drilling for oil, why are you boring?

Did you ever meet people so boring they put your feet to sleep? They complain about living, “I have to breathe all day, even when I sleep. It’s so boring!” One guy remarked that he fell asleep while reading a dull book and had a dream that he was still reading it; finally, he woke up from sheer boredom. How …

Criminal Mind – “I was in prison and you came to visit me.”

We consider ourselves tolerant and compassionate. But where is our tolerance and compassion when it comes to prisoners? Christ had something to say about them, “Come, blessed of my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from [the] world’s foundation: for I hungered, and ye gave me to eat; I thirsted, and ye gave me to drink; I was a …

To become aware of our power is a cause of joy

The best way to predict the future is to create it (Peter Drucker) Imagine being a wizard. If you were, you would have the powers of creation and transformation. You would be able to bring things into existence and transform what you dislike into something you do like. If you had such powers, what would you create? What would you …

Guilt upon the conscience is like rust upon iron

Seventeenth-century British Bishop, Robert South, wrote: “Guilt upon the conscience, like rust upon iron, both defiles and consumes it, gnawing and creeping into it, as that does which at last eats out the very heart and substance of the metal.” More recently, American Psychotherapist Dr. Albert Ellis wrote, “The more sinful and guilty a person tends to feel, the less …

Death, taxes, and change

It’s often said that nothing is certain in life other than death and taxes. And after paying taxes, all that is left are two kinds of change. The change we carry in our purse and the unstoppable transformation of everything we experience. As change occurs at a dizzying pace, we cling to straws in the hope of finding stability. But …

Don’t mope, cope while there’s still hope

What is meant by coping? In the broad psychological sense it is the way we respond to our environment and the people we live and work with. However, this article is based on the common use of the term. That is, coping is making the best of a situation; it is coming to terms with or successfully dealing with whatever …