What you can do to improve yourself

The importance of doing well in life cannot be denied. Everyone has been given a life and everyone exists but the main difference between the way you live your life and the way others do it is to live a fulfilling and content life. At the end of the day, when you look back at your life, you should be …

This Journey Called Life

(Material for this essay comes from the books “Love” and “Personhood” by Leo F. Buscaglia, Ph.D., “The Road Less Traveled” By M. Scott Peck M.D. “How Good Do We Have To Be?” by Rabbi Harold S. Kushner) Welcome to this journey called life. On this journey, we meet individuals from all walks of life who have found the secret to …

Tsunami of despair followed by tsunami of hope

After picking up the newspaper, turning on the radio, or watching TV, it is easy to become depressed. After all, our ears and eyes are assaulted with news of political, religious, racial, and ethnic strife. Add to this, global warming, blizzards, hurricanes, floods, landslides, forest fires, earthquakes, volcanic eruptions, drought, plagues of locusts, and famine. As if that were not …

Every path has its puddle; every life, its suffering

You may know or be a person in the midst of extreme hardship such as poverty, illness, pain, loneliness, unemployment, disability, homelessness, depression, or addiction. What shall we do when that is our lot? Well, we have three choices. First, we can struggle, resist, and do everything in our power to escape. Second, we can accept it. Third, we can …

Dealing with Rude Behavior

If you can’t fight, and you can’t flee, flow (Robert Eliot) Perhaps you or a friend may have said, “I don’t like it when.” or “I become angry whenever.” or “I can’t stand it if.” You can fill in the blanks. Here are some examples: “I can’t stand it when someone interrupts me while I’m speaking. I don’t like it …

What do we live for, if not to make the world less difficult for each other?

A reader asks about the pervasive problem of office politics. I’ll begin my answer with some introductory remarks. Then I will share her e-mail so you get a sense of her overall situation. After that I will respond point by point. I have numbered the paragraphs in her e-mail so I can refer to their number, instead of repeating what …

Hypocrisy – There’s much to dislike about it

Hypocrisy is the homage that vice pays to virtue (Francois De La Rochefoucauld) One of the most common vices, or bad habits, is hypocrisy. There’s much to dislike about it. Mainly, it’s a misuse of the gift of speech because language is used to conceal instead of reveal. By pretending to be what they are not, hypocrites imprison themselves. Although …

Frustration is the negation of elation

Life is meant to be a song of joy. Whenever we reach a goal, we feel elated; we feel in sync with the song of life. But whenever we are prevented from reaching our goals, we may succumb to frustration. We may feel annoyed and irritable. But since frustration negates happiness, it doesn’t make any sense to give in to …

Pity those who fear what they shouldn’t and fear not what they should

How sad it is to see people spend their lives haunted by fear. The joy of life is squeezed out of them by fear of failure, criticism, betrayal, change, rejection, loneliness, poverty, growing old, getting sick, losing one’s job, and saying what is on their mind. They are afraid of death. But what is the point? The fear of death …

Disappointment – The only thing certain about life is uncertainty

We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope (Martin Luther King, Jr.) We all make plans, have dreams, and set goals. Will our plans materialize or end in complete failure? The only thing certain about life is uncertainty. So, our frail attempts may end in glorious victory or frustrating defeat. Such is the nature of life. We are …