Guilt upon the conscience is like rust upon iron

Seventeenth-century British Bishop, Robert South, wrote: “Guilt upon the conscience, like rust upon iron, both defiles and consumes it, gnawing and creeping into it, as that does which at last eats out the very heart and substance of the metal.” More recently, American Psychotherapist Dr. Albert Ellis wrote, “The more sinful and guilty a person tends to feel, the less …

Death, taxes, and change

It’s often said that nothing is certain in life other than death and taxes. And after paying taxes, all that is left are two kinds of change. The change we carry in our purse and the unstoppable transformation of everything we experience. As change occurs at a dizzying pace, we cling to straws in the hope of finding stability. But …

Don’t mope, cope while there’s still hope

What is meant by coping? In the broad psychological sense it is the way we respond to our environment and the people we live and work with. However, this article is based on the common use of the term. That is, coping is making the best of a situation; it is coming to terms with or successfully dealing with whatever …

Conversations – Do you know why I talk to myself?

Why do I talk to myself? It’s the only way I can guarantee the conversation will be intelligent! When others join in, I often sprinkle the conversation with quotations from myself because everyone appreciates the wisdom I have to share. My detractors, however, claim that I don’t hold a conversation at all. Instead, they say, all I do is deliver …

You are no greater than your thoughts

Imagine rummaging through the attic and coming across an old, wooden chest. Not recognizing it, you pry open the heavy lid. After clouds of dust scatter, you peer into the chest. You’re puzzled by what you see: seeds. Thousands and thousands of seeds of every imaginable type. Some smaller than a grain of sand, others larger than a coconut. Seeds …

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Anger is the weak person’s imitation of strength

A good reason not to get angry is anger broadcasts our own weakness. When we vent our anger, we are effectively shouting, “I’m scared! I’m frustrated! I’m hurt!.” That’s another way of saying, “I’m weak!” After all, we are only as big as the things that make us angry. The following are examples of frustration: becoming angry when someone takes …

Desire-I wish I were rich instead of exceedingly handsome

All right, I admit it. I was only joking. Actually, I’m perfectly content with just being extraordinarily good-looking. I just wanted to give an example of one of the thousands of wishes, yearnings, desires, cravings, longings, and wants that pop into our minds during the day. Desire is part of life. Among the things hoped for are riches, power, fame, …

It’s okay to pick your friends, but don’t pick them to pieces

What do you think of people who descend on their friends like vultures, criticizing, maligning, ridiculing, scorning, blaming, insulting, and belittling them? Actual vultures feed on carrion, but these human vultures pick their friends apart while they are still alive. Our family members are supposed to be our closest friends, yet even they may engage in the same malicious tactics. …

Procrastination-Today’s greatest labor-saving device is tomorrow

The 28th President of the United States had a sense of humor, for when Woodrow T. Wilson (1856 ~ 1924) said, “Today’s greatest labor-saving device is tomorrow,” he was referring to procrastination. It’s a clever one-liner, but in real life there’s nothing funny about procrastination. Quite the contrary, it is responsible for much personal anguish. After all, it results in …

The Death of the Fear of Death

A 17-year old reader has recently been diagnosed with depression and OCD and is being treated for them. She is obsessed with the fear of death, so much so that she is uncomfortable around the elderly or anyone who brings up the subject of death or the brevity of life. She writes: “What if the thing that you fear is …