You’ve got to be free in order to be 

How can we be the person we want to be; how can we realize our potential; how can we express ourselves; how can we know happiness unless we are free? What can be more frustrating than to be hampered and hemmed in, unable to act freely? What can be more agonizing than to have one’s progress blocked, one’s aspirations squelched, …

Those who can bear all can dare all

I was recently asked, “What is the formula for success?” Well, there is not one way to scale a mountain; there are many ways. Similarly, there is not one path to success, but many. Choose one, stay on it, and you’ll eventually reach your destination. However, since I was asked, I’ll give my own formula. Only you can decide whether …

Our dream is the song of our soul

All great journeys start with a dream (Ozzie Smith)  We all have dreams. Usually while we’re asleep. Such dreams could be more hurtful than helpful. For example, imagine dreaming you’re eating shredded wheat, only to wake up and find half the mattress gone! Well, I’m not talking about that type of dream. Rather, I’m thinking about one’s vision, aspiration, or …

How does one discover their passion in life?

Chase your passion, not your pension (Denis Waitley) A 22-year-old college graduate, bewildered by the unlimited possibilities that face him, asks for help in deciding what life path to follow. Although his problem is common and understandable among young men and women, it is also experienced by some in their 30’s, 40’s, 50’s, and beyond. I will share his questions …

How sad that I’m not sad!

Amy is in her early 50’s, married and has four children. She has written to me because she hasn’t been able to experience sadness for the last 18 years. She finds it strange that whenever her friends discuss tragedies, whether distant (such as the tsunami that struck Southeast Asia) or close at home (such as the abduction or murder of …

What on earth are you doing for Heaven’s sake?

I’d like to share with you the stories of two men. The first is a Prince in a distant land. One morning he fetched his bow and arrow as was his custom, mounted his favorite horse, and set off for the forest. After coming to a clearing, he dismounted, tied the reins to a branch, and entered the bushes in …

Searching for happiness is like riding a taxi in search of a taxi

You wouldn’t take a taxi to search for a taxi, would you? Why search for what you already have? The search for happiness is no different. It’s a search for something you already have. Granted, it may not be obvious, for your happiness may be hidden in the recesses of your being. Do you remember the story of the ugly …

People today have the means to live, but no meaning to live for

The title of this article was taken from a quote by the Austrian Psychiatrist, Viktor E. Frankl (1905 ~ 1997). He developed the theory and practice of logotherapy, which became known as the “third school” of Viennese psychotherapy (the “first school” being that of Sigmund Freud and the second that of Alfred Adler). A survivor of the Holocaust, Frankl became …

It’s never too late to find love

This article is in answer to a reader who is a 35-year-old male. Although I am addressing him, the principles I write about apply equally to men and women. So, if you are a woman, please change my gender references to make the article meaningful to you. Our reader writes, “I would love to have a girlfriend to spend time …

How can I be in the pink when I feel blue?

Why am I in the dumps? How come I feel blue? I’m depressed, not in the clinical sense, but in the everyday usage of the word; you know, I’m experiencing “the blahs.” Why is this happening? After asking so many questions, it’s only fitting that I provide some answers. So, I’ll explain why I and others feel blue, why it’s …