A possibility was born the day you were born

Lisa, a 36-year-old woman asks, “How do you find a direction in life? I’ve had several jobs and excelled at all. But after the death of my spouse, my life came to a standstill. I want to start the ball rolling again. At the risk of sounding repetitious, how do I find a direction in life?” After getting this brief …

Liberty, license, and liberation

A reader has a question about last week’s article, which was entitled, “It’s all UP to you” His question and my answer follow, but before I begin, let me invite YOU, too, to pose questions or suggest topics you would like me to cover. Now, on to his question: “I’d like to ask you about something you said in your …

The less you carry, the farther you go. So let go!

The head of the monastery and his disciple had finished looking after the sick, so they left the village and headed home. After a 45 minute trek in the woods, they came to the most difficult part of their journey, a wide, raging stream that had to be crossed. But today was different, for standing close by was a lovely …

Letting go of spite, in spite of ourselves

Were you ever driving along on the highway when someone behind you flashed their high beams because they wanted you to speed up? Such rude and unwarranted behavior can be upsetting. Did you deliberately slow down instead, just to annoy the car behind you? If you did, the other driver just got angrier and probably started tailgating you. Why do …

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Advice for a reader that cannot laugh

I live to laugh and laugh to live (Milton Berle, 1908 ~ 2002) A reader writes, “I read your article about Laughter and while finding it most informative, I also felt as though it were rubbing salt in a wound. You see Chuck, unfortunately I cannot laugh, and have been looking for all sorts of medical help with this problem. Of …

Don’t agonize, compromise

People: we can’t get along without them and we can’t get along with them. We can’t get along without them because we can’t do everything; we need their help, and they need ours. We can’t get along with them because their interests and goals clash with ours. So, how do we reconcile these differences? How do we change frustration, bickering, …

Self-discipline is the mother of happiness

Does the title of this article sound like a contradiction or oxymoron? After all, self-discipline makes one think of work or effort, while happiness brings up thoughts of pleasure and the absence of work. So, how can the two go together? Well, first we have to understand what happiness is. It is peace of mind. And what exactly does that …

What we learn from children

A torn jacket is soon mended; but hard words bruise the heart of a child (Longfellow) “Children today are tyrants. They contradict their parents, gobble their food, and tyrannize their teachers.” Sound familiar? Who do you suppose said that? It was Socrates! He said that more than 2,400 years ago. So the world hasn’t changed much, has it? It seems …

Have you lost your drive because you’re out of gas?

“Help! There’s a lot I’d like to do, but I’ve run out of gas. What can I do?” Lack of energy or exhaustion is a problem that is holding many people back. Energy is the fuel that powers our drive to get things done; constant bouts of exhaustion are the brakes that bring our progress to a halt. So, much …

Learning adds excitement and meaning to life

Learning is not compulsory but neither is survival (W. Edwards Deming) I am poorly equipped with original ideas, lack critical thinking skills, and am untaught in the arts of composition. Yet, I am eminently qualified to write about learning, for no one values study more than those who need it. I am not ashamed of my ignorance, although I would …