‘Negativitis’ cripples the human spirit

Does it seem strange that some people COMPLAIN they don’t have enough TIME to be happy, yet they find enough time to be sad? Not really. You see, their deplorable plight has nothing to do with having sufficient or insufficient time. It has everything to do with complaining. After all, complaining is the negation of happiness. It’s impossible to complain …

How should we deal with nasty people?

Though animated, she spoke softly. Isabel wanted to know how to deal with nasty people. “You know what I mean,” she said, “loudmouths, braggarts, hypocrites, gossipers, and troublemakers. How do you deal with people who are judgmental, manipulative, argumentative, nerve-racking, thoughtless, or pretentious?” “I have no problem getting along with my friends,” she added, but what do you do when …

The Morning After Mourning

We may escape the ravages of killer earthquakes and hurricanes, but we cannot escape from the need for mourning because one day we will lose a loved one. The time to think about mourning is now, before the need arises, for when that day comes, we’ll be too distraught to think clearly. The purpose of mourning is to get us …

Eight Steps in a Retreat

Did you ever attend, or think of attending, a retreat? They are often run by religious groups, spiritual teachers, therapists, and others. Found in remote areas and surrounded by natural beauty, they are perfect havens, sanctuaries, and refuges from the clamor of city life. There in the midst of silence, one learns how to release stress, quiet the mind, engage …

Blessed are the flexible, for they shall not get bent out of shape

Isn’t it wonderful to be mentally flexible? For when we are, we’ll never get bent out of shape. But mental flexibility is much more than a desirable trait. It is essential for the welfare of humanity. Without it, we place our planet and ourselves in peril. Oppressive regimes inflict terror and deny human rights because they believe their way is …

The end never justifies the meanness

We recoil in horror when others commit acts of cruelty, yet we forget our own. Have you ever been tempted to give unsolicited advice to a friend? Don’t do it; bite your tongue. For example, inviting a friend to join you in workouts at the health club so they can lose some weight may appear perfectly innocent, but what are …

Causes and Cures for Apathy

It’s nothing to die; it’s frightful not to live (Victor Hugo) What is the difference between ignorance and apathy? I don’t know and I don’t care. Do you realize that scientists discovered a cure for apathy? But no one cares! Lastly, a public service announcement: The Apathy Anonymous meeting was canceled due to lack of interest. If you haven’t figured …

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Marriage is a three ring circus: engagement RING, wedding RING, suffeRING

Today’s subject is marital difficulties. I will begin by sharing the email I received requesting help. Then I will follow it with a second email that provided more information by answering my questions. After receiving the second email, I gave our reader “homework” to do for three days. You may find these exercises helpful for you as well, and they …

To find what you search for, seek without seeking

Many people are on a quest. They are searching for answers to their QUESTions. They wonder to themselves, “Why am I here and what is the purpose of life?” Traditionally, religion has provided the answers. In ancient times, villages, towns, and even countries were isolated. One religion and culture were shared by all members of the group. The faith they …

Excuses are harmful because they prevent one from succeeding

He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else (Benjamin Franklin) Most of us are guilty of having done something we shouldn’t have or of not doing something we should have. When we are questioned about our misconduct, do we accept responsibility and admit we are at fault? Usually not. Instead we make excuses. Making excuses …