Not living your dreams because you’re living your fears?

When you were a child, did you believe in ghosts? Were you frightened by ‘strange’ sounds in the night? If so, the fear you experienced was real. So were the physical effects: a dry mouth, a racing heart, and perspiration. Yet, your fear owed its existence to something unreal. Your fear, like the ghost you were frightened of, was nothing …

Don’t Worry; Be Happy

Why did the song Don’t worry; be happy become such a hit? Isn’t it because its simple message resonated within us? Deep down, we realize that we arent supposed to worry. Yet, the worry habit is hard to shake. Not that its surprising; after all, people continue to lose jobs because of downsizing, their children may not be doing well …

Pity those who fear what they shouldn’t and fear not what they should

How sad it is to see people spend their lives haunted by fear. The joy of life is squeezed out of them by fear of failure, criticism, betrayal, change, rejection, loneliness, poverty, growing old, getting sick, losing one’s job, and saying what is on their mind. They are afraid of death. But what is the point? The fear of death …

The Death of the Fear of Death

A 17-year old reader has recently been diagnosed with depression and OCD and is being treated for them. She is obsessed with the fear of death, so much so that she is uncomfortable around the elderly or anyone who brings up the subject of death or the brevity of life. She writes: “What if the thing that you fear is …

Advice on Feelings and Worry

A 21-year-old student is confused about his feelings. For the sake of clarity, I will comment on his email line by line, followed by general comments and suggestions. “I used to be a really mean person, but as I’ve progressed through college, I’ve changed my view of the world dramatically.” The way we treat others reveals how we feel about …