Desire-I wish I were rich instead of exceedingly handsome

All right, I admit it. I was only joking. Actually, I’m perfectly content with just being extraordinarily good-looking. I just wanted to give an example of one of the thousands of wishes, yearnings, desires, cravings, longings, and wants that pop into our minds during the day. Desire is part of life. Among the things hoped for are riches, power, fame, …

It’s okay to pick your friends, but don’t pick them to pieces

What do you think of people who descend on their friends like vultures, criticizing, maligning, ridiculing, scorning, blaming, insulting, and belittling them? Actual vultures feed on carrion, but these human vultures pick their friends apart while they are still alive. Our family members are supposed to be our closest friends, yet even they may engage in the same malicious tactics. …

Procrastination-Today’s greatest labor-saving device is tomorrow

The 28th President of the United States had a sense of humor, for when Woodrow T. Wilson (1856 ~ 1924) said, “Today’s greatest labor-saving device is tomorrow,” he was referring to procrastination. It’s a clever one-liner, but in real life there’s nothing funny about procrastination. Quite the contrary, it is responsible for much personal anguish. After all, it results in …

The Death of the Fear of Death

A 17-year old reader has recently been diagnosed with depression and OCD and is being treated for them. She is obsessed with the fear of death, so much so that she is uncomfortable around the elderly or anyone who brings up the subject of death or the brevity of life. She writes: “What if the thing that you fear is …

How are we to practice courtesy?

The small courtesies sweeten life, the greater, ennoble it (Christian Nevell Bovee) While driving, did you ever want to switch lanes, but were prevented from doing so by the heavy traffic? How did you feel when someone recognizing your problem slowed down, waved to you, and let you in? Your mounting frustration was instantly transformed into relief and thankfulness, wasn’t …

Don’t smother your life with clutter

Why would anyone want to carry around needless burdens? That’s what clutter is. It drains one’s energy, slows one’s progress, and eats away at our limited time and space. Left unabated, it spreads all over one’s life becoming emotional, mental, and physical clutter. Joel is an example of someone plagued by emotional clutter. He is always whining about how he …

What to do when your kid’s shoes cost more than yours

What do you tell your children when they say they need expensive shoes so they can be “popular” at school? If their shoes cost more than yours, isn’t something wrong? Children are afraid they won’t be “loved” by their peers if they wear cheap clothes. And parents are afraid they won’t be “loved” by their children if they don’t give …

Self-Esteem – Why I know I am perfect

How do I know I’m perfect? Everyone tells me I am! Well, maybe they don’t directly say so, but they certainly suggest it. What they really say is, “Chuck, you’re nobody!” And as you know, nobody is perfect, so if I’m nobody, I’m perfect! Despite my less than perfect humor, I, like you, was born perfect. We all were. Anyone …

Don’t give until it hurts; give until it feels good

Introductory note from Chuck: This article contains statistical data of Ontario, Canada at the time of this article. Although the numbers may vary in the United States, the principles that are discussed apply to most countries . . . At this time of year, people are celebrating or preparing to celebrate Ramadan, Chanukah, Christmas, or Kwanzaa. It’s a time we …

Tips to changing our attitude or the way we view the world

If necessity is the mother of invention, discontent is the father of progress (David Rockerfeller) You say you’re not satisfied? Things could be better? Great! You’re well on the road to moving forward. For the seed of progress is the need for improvement. According to Eugene V. Debs, “If it had not been for the discontent of a few fellows …