Tips to changing our attitude or the way we view the world

If necessity is the mother of invention, discontent is the father of progress (David Rockerfeller) You say you’re not satisfied? Things could be better? Great! You’re well on the road to moving forward. For the seed of progress is the need for improvement. According to Eugene V. Debs, “If it had not been for the discontent of a few fellows …

You don’t have to be disagreeable when you disagree

When a friend makes a remark about the weather that you disagree with, it’s easy to dismiss such a trivial matter without getting upset. However, if the subject changes to politics, religion, or other sensitive subjects, a simple misunderstanding can become a disagreement, which then leads to a quarrel, which, in turn, could end in bitterness and a breakup. Friendships …

The True Cause of Unhappiness

Is something disturbing, bothering, irritating, or annoying you? If so, what is troubling you? Is it a boss that is too demanding, a coworker that is too careless, or your children that are too noisy? Does the lack of civility, the increase in crime, or the apathy of young people upset you? Perhaps it is poor health, little money, or …

Helping the Dying to Live

One day we will all have to visit, help, or comfort a dying person. How should we treat someone with a terminal illness? Shouldn’t we treat them the same way we treat anyone else? Why should we treat them differently when there is no difference between us. After all, aren’t we all dying? Yes, we are all dying, but until …

It is not the criminal we should hate but the causes of crime

Growing numbers of Canadians are suggesting that capital punishment should be reinstated. It is not because they are vicious, but because they are fearful. Afraid that violent crime is on the rise, they hope to stamp it out by sending a message to criminals. Why do they think killing people that kill people will teach others that killing people is …

Without trust all you can be in life is alone

Imagine trying to survive without trust. How could you drive anywhere unless you trusted the other drivers to follow traffic rules? Would you go to work if you didn’t have faith in your employer to pay your salary? Or, if you are the employer, would you hire anyone without the faith that they would carry out their responsibilities? It is …

Building Self-Esteem

A local reader asked over coffee a few questions about self-esteem. Since the information is worth sharing, I present it here in Question and Answer form. Q: “What is self-esteem? Is it another word for self-confidence? A: No, they are different. SELF-ESTEEM deals with the image we have of ourselves. It is about how we see and FEEL about ourselves. …

Major characteristics of the resilient

That which does not kill us makes us stronger (Friedrich Nietzsche) Who doesn’t admire the resiliency of the people of New York City? Those who have survived the most ferocious terrorist attack ever, have showed how, in a few short months, they could bounce back and get on with life. True, the world changed after September 11th. But so did …

Brokenhearted? Take heart; you will not die

A reader is his early 30’s is distressed because his girlfriend, who is eleven years younger, ended their two-year relationship. Our reader writes, “I am going through a life crisis, it may not seem a big thing but I am finding it very hard to cope. She is on my mind all the time. Can you suggest any ways in …

Breaking Bad Habits – We are what we repeatedly do

Aristotle taught, “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” Good habits are our best friends. Because we perform them unconsciously, they free us to concentrate on other useful endeavors. On the other hand, the opposite is true for bad habits. They encumber us, enslave us, and ensnare us, preventing us from moving …