What do you do when a good relationship turns bad? Do you work hard to save the relationship? Do you ignore the problems? Or do you separate? What follows is a dialog between two people: myself and a fellow I’ll call James, who, even though he is suffering in a bad relationship, has been doing everything he can to avoid …
RELATIONSHIPS: The Source of Happiness or… Troubles
Your relationships could be a great source of health and happiness, or a great source of… problems. Your relationships with your spouse, children, family members, friends and co-workers, deserve love and respect, and no one has the right to hurt anyone. Supposedly, a good relationship will lift you up, not drag you down; but for some people, the reality …
5 Keys to a Gratifying Life and Trouble-Free Relationships
Key 1: Awareness Most of us, most of the time, are asleep. That is, we live most of our life on autopilot. Automatically reacting to whatever comes our way. Little or no thought precedes our actions. Yet, if we are to appreciate life, grow, and discover our own greatness, we must awaken from our slumber. Spiritual teacher, Father Anthony De …
Love and Marriage
One of our readers is a 29-year-old male, Muslim, born and raised in the Indian subcontinent, studied in Europe, moving to the Middle East after his studies to work in management, and later moved to another European capital where he now lives and where he obtained a graduate degree. In this article, I will call him Fani, which is an …
Building Better Business Relationships
Although the focus of this article may be on business relationships, much of what follows applies to all relationships. The subject is an important one; after all, if we treasure our possessions, job, reputation, or power more than our relationships, all will suffer. In fact, the quality of our lives will be determined by the quality of our relationships. Moreover, …
If You Would Have a Good Wife, Be a Good Husband
I. The Problem A 34-year-old engineer from India asks about a marital problem. I will call him Aastik, a name that means “who has faith in God.” Aastik writes, “I have been married for nine years, have a son, and live with my wife and parents. My younger sisters got married about the same time as me. Despite my parent’s …
Disturbing Divorce Dilemma
Divorce may be common, but that doesn’t make it any less painful. Death is also common, but the greatest pain we will experience is the death of those we love the most. And the second greatest pain humans experience is the death of their marriage: divorce. Today’s article is prompted by a European reader, who I will call Anna. I …
Relationships are for growing, not for growing apart
A reader writes, “I’m 26 and my boyfriend is 29. We’ve been together for just under a year. “I was once a self confessed pessimist, but gradually turned myself into an optimist. My boyfriend is a really hardcore pessimist. He believes he is a realist, and that I have my head in the clouds. “I want to try and help …
Marriage is a three ring circus: engagement RING, wedding RING, suffeRING
Today’s subject is marital difficulties. I will begin by sharing the email I received requesting help. Then I will follow it with a second email that provided more information by answering my questions. After receiving the second email, I gave our reader “homework” to do for three days. You may find these exercises helpful for you as well, and they …
There Are No Jerks, Only People
What would everyone you know say if you were to ask them, Did you ever meet a jerk? Wouldn’t they all reply yes? If so, that must mean there are a lot of jerks! Where do they all come from, and why is this an important question? Lets begin by analyzing where jerks come from. 1. MISUNDERSTANDING. Where do jerks …