You must pre-live the future, not re-live the past

Stan is twenty-three, a university graduate, and employed by a reputable firm. His high school ‘romance’ fizzled out while he was going to the university. In his senior year, he met someone else, and soon they become a couple. Recently, however, his girlfriend ended the relationship. Stan feels devastated. He can’t get her out of his mind and finds it …

A helping hand or a slap in the face?

The same hand that helps can be used to hurt. Sometimes, despite our good intentions, we cause pain instead of relieving it. If a friend or acquaintance asks for advice, what should we do? Of course, it depends on several things, such as the nature of the problem, but one thing we should do is exercise caution by thinking before …

You can’t get ahead without getting along

Carmen Rundle (not her real name) writes, “I can’t help but feel guilty about resigning from a charity organization helping the poor. My sister, friend, and I have been working with them over a year organizing fund-raising projects. One of our recent projects was baking and selling cakes and cookies to the members of our church. My sister and I …

It’s never too late to find love

This article is in answer to a reader who is a 35-year-old male. Although I am addressing him, the principles I write about apply equally to men and women. So, if you are a woman, please change my gender references to make the article meaningful to you. Our reader writes, “I would love to have a girlfriend to spend time …

What are the Challenges of Love?

Real love stories never have endings (Richard Bach) With Valentine’s Day almost here, today’s article on romantic relationships is timely. However, it is prompted by a reader’s two-part question: “Is it true that it is easier to forgive than to forget?” and “What are the challenges of love?” Let’s dive in at once, considering the questions in the order in …

Brokenhearted? Take heart; you will not die

A reader is his early 30’s is distressed because his girlfriend, who is eleven years younger, ended their two-year relationship. Our reader writes, “I am going through a life crisis, it may not seem a big thing but I am finding it very hard to cope. She is on my mind all the time. Can you suggest any ways in …

Don’t waver, but savor the favor

Branko Copic (b. 1915) was a Bosnian-Herzegovinian writer well loved in his homeland, which was formerly known as the Federal Republic of Yugoslavia. His children stories, novels, narratives, and poetry touched the lives of many. One day in 1984 he called a friend to ask a favor. “Why don’t you come over so we can chat?” “I’m sorry, Branko,” his …

Appearances Can Be Deceiving (Aesop)

The shimmering surface of a lake, glowing in the evening sun, may inspire us with its beauty. Yet, hidden beneath its surface may be an ugly blanket of toxic sludge. On the other hand, the ocean surface that is marred by unsightly patches of oil spilled by a tanker, may conceal within its depths animal life of great beauty. Can …

We don’t grow up until we look up to others

Do you enjoy being admired? Of course you do. We all do. After all, we have an innate desire to be admired. We want to be respected and held in high regard. Since we all feel that way, my statement comes as no surprise. However, what we may overlook is that we have an equally strong desire to admire and …

Acting without thinking is shooting without aiming

You wouldn’t fire a gun without aiming, would you? So, why would we act without thinking? When we live as robots doing whatever feels good instead of whatever is best for us, there is a heavy price to pay. Replacing thoughtful behaviour with thoughtless acts leads to material, mental, and physical suffering: lost dreams, emotional turmoil, and bodily pain and …