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It is more shameful to…

“It is more shameful to distrust our friends than to be deceived by them.” (─Confucius) A Reader, whom I’ll call “Tom” writes, “In my 45 years of living on this planet life experience and living has much more frequently than not taught me that people are not to be trusted and that sooner or later you will be hurt by whomever …

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Get To Know People Not Leaving Your House

Cam chat is a modern service letting people get to know others not even leaving their house. It’s hard to meet a person who has never heard of chatroulette. It has already gained in popularity with a great number of girls and guys from across the world giving them a unique possibility to find new friends and have an unforgettable …

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Miscommunicating and Making Assumptions

Isn’t life a series of interactions with others? That being so, it makes getting along with people of primary importance. After all, if our interactions are pleasant, we’ll have a happy life, but if they are filled with conflict, rancor, and resentment we’ll be unhappy. Why do so many people struggle with getting along with others? Two of the many …

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Gaining Control over Your Life

I’m all in favor of kindness and service to others, but not when it means allowing others to manipulate us. Refusing to allow others to walk all over us is not about being selfish or self-centered, but of being self-aware. It’s about understanding that we are responsible for our own lives. If we GIVE IN to others, we GIVE UP on …

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Handling Infidelity – Friendship, Intimacy, Love, and Breakup

Real love stories never have endings (Richard Bach) Nature is a great teacher. A walk in a forest can teach us about life and help us to experience something far greater than ourselves. Suppose you came upon a colony of mushrooms decorating the forest floor, what would you see? At first, you may believe the hundreds of mushrooms are individual …

When a Good Relationship Turns Bad

What do you do when a good relationship turns bad? Do you work hard to save the relationship? Do you ignore the problems? Or do you    separate? What follows is a dialog between two people: myself and a fellow I’ll call James, who, even though he is suffering in a bad relationship, has been doing everything he can to avoid …

Small Acts of Courtesy, Gentleness, and Kindness Have Huge Consequences

How are we to practice courtesy? While driving, did you ever want to switch lanes, but were prevented from doing so by the heavy traffic? How did you feel when someone recognizing your problem slowed down, waved to you, and let you in? Your mounting frustration was instantly transformed into relief and thankfulness, wasn’t it? Later, when you saw someone …

The Science behind Love

For centuries, poets, song writers, philosophers and lovers have identified the heart as the “organ of love and emotions,” but now, thanks to science, we know that the heart and brain communicate. This is two-way communication, with each organ influencing the other’s function. The heart and brain communicate through the transmission of nerve impulses, hormones and neurotransmitters and through electromagnetic …

RELATIONSHIPS: The Source of Happiness or… Troubles

  Your relationships could be a great source of health and happiness, or a great source of… problems. Your relationships with your spouse, children, family members, friends and co-workers, deserve love and respect, and no one has the right to hurt anyone.  Supposedly, a good relationship will lift you up, not drag you down; but for some people, the reality …

5 Keys to a Gratifying Life and Trouble-Free Relationships

Key 1: Awareness Most of us, most of the time, are asleep. That is, we live most of our life on autopilot. Automatically reacting to whatever comes our way. Little or no thought precedes our actions. Yet, if we are to appreciate life, grow, and discover our own greatness, we must awaken from our slumber. Spiritual teacher, Father Anthony De …